The Limits of Language and How It’s Contributed to Outdated, Dysfunctional Religion and Politics

Tuesday, May 17th, 2016

Our thoughts are linguistically based. Every thought we have is verbal. This chatter goes on inside our minds incessantly and the thoughts we attach to are called ‘beliefs’. We’re built to try to figure things out, to draw conclusions, and act in the way we believe to be right. In our polarized society we end up with heavy emphasis upon persuasion. Religions push to grow their membership based on what they ‘think’ is right and political parties push to grow their membership by doing the same. Our minds are built to come to conclusion. At one level we feel better when we ‘think we know’. Yet, the true spiritual journey is beyond language. There’s a universal appeal to fall to our knees in humility to all that we don’t know. Every spiritual tradition, at its core, advises that we ‘touch silence’, free from our thoughts of knowing. There’s a surrender that’s needed, and with that surrender comes our reuniting with the rhythm and harmony of the universe. Linguistically, when we do this we break the subject/object divide. It’s no longer me against you, I know and you don’t. Even when the problems seem big, in this stillness, we become bigger than the problem. Our real faith comes when we have the courage to touch one another’s humanity in openness, freed from our limiting belief systems. So how can this work practically in our 2.0 Upgrade to government? I think we can all agree that our polarized traditional way has frozen to the point that very little is happening in a time where we need to be accelerating our response to a rapidly changing world. It’s my contention that if we could come to a few basic agreements in our meeting rituals we’d break the ice and once again align in stewardship to our communities, states, nations and planet.

Most indigenous cultures had some form of this upgrade in their traditional background. When we set about facing big problems, I’d suggest that our belief oriented invocation be expanded to the following agreements:

We agree that we don’t have all the answers.
We agree that there is a spiritual element to our ‘gift of being’ and that we have a humble responsibility to be of stewardship to all people, places and things. We acknowledge the limits of language, the limits of our sense of righteousness, and respect the separation of church and state without abandoning our reliance upon what the Bill of Rights called ‘divine Providence’.
We agree at the outset of this meeting to suspend those thoughts we’ve attached so strongly to as we sit in silence with one another. As we let go our need to push another to our limited way of seeing the world we open ourselves for bigger solutions. As our brothers and sisters feel our desire to understand growing over our contempt and desire to persuade we agree that we more effectively loosen the holds of rigid belief in faith to that which is bigger than us.
We agree that our differences of thought arise from our differences of experience. We agree that our first responsibility is to better understand those who we’ve concluded to be wrong. We pledge to let go defensive listening and hard line persuasion in respect to the tremendous power of active listening. We mutually pledge to actively listen to one another with equal opportunity of time, free from the ineffectiveness of persuasion and violence, sincerely aiming to understand one another’s position.
We agree to first and foremost examine ‘who gets hurt’ with any decision we come to. The ultimate aim in all of our policies and actions is to ‘seek what is best for all with harm to none’.
We agree to sit in stillness, without language and thought, connecting with one another’s humanity. To simply sit, breathing the same air, free from the incessant chatter in our minds that feeds our restlessness. Sitting for fifteen minutes in silence, tuned in and tuned up to better face our responsibilities to all peoples, places and things.

This harmonizing exercise has proven effective over the ages and it’s dangerous to continue with our antiquated, closed minded approaches to problems that imminently threaten our planet. The stagnation has to stop as global diversity and change continue to accelerate. During this political campaign the media has gone to new lengths in pushing conflict and polarization. That’s just what the media does. It’s drawn to what’s wrong and desires to feed the fire for increased viewership. Unfortunately, as a nation, we’ve grown our anger and become more rigid in our beliefs. The above approach rises above debate, right vs. wrong, violence, and I believe goes a long way to healing our nation and planet, to once again finding our ‘wholeness’, our interconnection with all peoples, places and things. It brings us to that place where we all fall to our knees in gratitude and reliance upon ‘divine Providence’, with true desire for peace, joy and love to all.

https://archive.org/details/20160516071335   Click this link for an audio presentation on the above topic.

When in silence to the internal chatter, we’re “letting go the clinging to human thought, and this means letting go, or throwing out, human arrogance.  With that we become, as the Bible says, ‘as God wills,’ and then ‘the works of God will be manifest. (John 9:3)  We are constantly discriminating and dividing everything into this and that, based on our thinking.  To throw out sequential thinking, not tying one phenomenon to another, is to be prior to thought.  It is to be before the separation of things into ‘this’ and ‘that’.   …it’s to exist before separating this moment from eternity, or subject from object.     ….it enables one to experience directly.”   from Opening the Hand of Thought  by Kosho Uchiyama  p.  112.

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Beyond Division, Religion and Nationalism

We have no choice but to expand our circle of belonging.  The divisive nature of small belonging is currently threatening our very existence and collaborative efforts are mandatory for our survival.  Einstein once said the key question to successful living is, “Do you feel safe?”  As mutant religious cells inflict terror, as we push to weaponize our homes and nations, as climate change produces radical weather events, as rogue nations vie for power over their neighbor and beyond, and as the wealth gap grows past the obscene, our only real choice for survival is collaboration, dialogue and understanding.  We have no choice but to meet one another in our suffering.  The illusion that we can somehow avoid the pain of others has been completely smashed with the advent of nuclear weapons, modern technological developments in communications, climate change, and the redistribution of global populations through immigration and refugees.  In the face of rapidly accelerating diversity we have no choice but to embrace collaboration, seek understanding, and compassionately work to alleviate one another’s suffering in the truth that “we are each other”.  This notion has been validated through quantum physics and denial of our connections to one another is another denial of science and spirituality at its core.

This very concept is contrary to the typical “conservative” response.  Rather than embracing collaborative efforts as mindful stewardship for survival, the right wing element of politics embraces an ideology centered on a strong military, tough law enforcement, resistance to immigration, widespread availability of guns, and general fear of change and diversity.  It would seem well tailored for an underlying, threat-oriented biology.

A number of scientists who’ve examined this speculate that this ultimately reflects an evolutionary imperative. “One possibility is that a strong negativity bias was extremely useful in the Pleistocene when it would have been super-helpful in preventing you from getting killed.” (The Pleistocene epoch lasted from roughly 2.5 million years ago until 12,000 years ago.) John Hibbing (The Biology of Ideology) has written about these ideas in depth and it seems quite clear that conservatism is “positively associated with heightened epistemic concerns for order, structure, closure, certainty, consistency, simplicity, and familiarity, as well as existential concerns such as perceptions of danger, sensitivity to threat, and death anxiety.”  This speaks to the popularity of Putin, Trump and most of the current Republican presidential candidates.  This element of our population that’s wired to resist change embraces the confidence these men have in holding order.  Any notion of collaboration is judged by them as “soft” or weak.  They gain the confidence of their followers with never ending statements of holding back change, whether through military excess, building walls, or ignoring climate change.  This same authority is invoked by religious ideologues claiming they know exactly what happens when we die.  They gain the confidence (con men) in their followers by claiming they have the answers to life’s great mysteries.  Yet, as change has it’s way with us we can see the devastating results from their efforts to stop the acceleration of change in our lifetime.  In effect, they elaborate on a thought, feed it to a frenzy, and eventually move to willingness to war from their attachment to “being right”.

The spiritual call is for us to smash our illusions of separateness.  The poisons of fear, greed and our denial of interconnection have us at the brink of planetary destruction.  This issue can no longer be put on the back burner and the voice of serious theologians from all faiths has to be explored in dialogue and collaboration.  Yes, keep religion (your belief that you’re right) separate from state matters.  But the spirituality of this nation has always been about embracing diversity and meeting one another’s suffering in compassion for our healing.  In previous ages, we could do this with just our family, community, state or nation.  Today’s world commands us to expand this circle across boarders.  Holding the political conservative view today is no longer an option and the wisdom of Pope Francis and the Dali Lama illustrate the need to move from love rather than fear.  They will be the first to speak to the vast mystery of the Divine.  Without faith we’ll continue to invest in military solutions over collaborative solutions which come from dialogue and understanding.  This is what faithful reliance upon Divine Providence is all about, what our forefathers ended the Declaration of Independence with.

When we expand our circles past our small knowledge, when we surrender our “I know that” attitude, when we move from fear to hope and possibility, we can touch the safety Einstein spoke of.  Accelerating change is upon us.  Our rock is not to be found in growing our fighting force, accumulating massive amounts of material goods, and building higher walls.  The Divine is challenging us to get bigger than that.  The recent collaborative efforts to act on climate change and to tackle the mutant ISIS cells is evidence to our need to move past small minded nationalistic thinking.  The calls from the Pope, the Dali Lama, the Interfaith Alliance, and the United Religions Initiative is further evidence that we need to move beyond religion to face the bigger issues of the day.

Polishing Skills to Just Want to Be Here, Now

Amazing Grace...Still Here

I know so many friends who are deep in their suffering.  There’s tremendous stress that comes from their restlessness to be somewhere else or to have a different situation.  For some it’s unemployment, giving rise to much space to feed the restless mind.  For others it’s a serious illness that challenges their notions of ‘forever’.  In all cases, it’s the mind wrestling with the Law of Impermanence.  Everything changes, moment by moment.  The quality of my life revolves around my willingness and capacity to embrace what comes, to breath in gratitude for the gift of what’s given, and eventually fill with joy and enthusiasm fed from the opportunity to participate within this next arising moment.

When I was young my parents taught me a prayer that forced me to face the reality that some day, I too, would die.

Now I lay me down to sleep

I pray the Lord my soul to keep

And if I die before I wake

I pray the Lord my soul to take

This simple prayer really, really worked for me.  I woke with joy and enthusiasm for the gift of another day, no matter what.  It gave me the ‘felt’ sense that I am more than my body, that I’m more than this limited time in it.  Today I have to ask my friends, “Is what you’re doing to face your suffering working for you?”  Most of the time they’re not curious about what’s worked for me.  I’m now living sixty years in this body and feel somewhat obligated to share what’s been discovered in truth through 100% working for me.  I don’t mean 90% or 80%.  This is learning that goes to the core of the soul, touching flesh and bones, resonating with every cell within the body.  It’s learning that deepens with every breath, moving in alignment with the belly and the heart.  It’s learning verified through aware doing in full alignment to Being.  So dear friend, “Is what you’re doing working for you?”  If affirmative, I suspect you’ve stopped reading this.  If not, where’s your curious mind?  Here are a few things that always work for me.

 If I want to make space for something new to come in my life I have to be filled with acceptance for what ‘is’.  This means filled with acceptance for what I have, do, and experience within this moment.

My life is about ‘waking up’.  My awareness to this moment requires work.  There’s a practice that commands focus, precision and obedience.  My mind is continually creating thoughts of ‘not wanting’, of ‘dis-ease’.  I have a choice of trying to avoid this moment or ‘trying to fix’ this moment.  Yet, peace comes when I face and accept this moment as opportunity to participate.  This gratitude work yields a higher vibration, one of joy.  The higher vibration removes obstacles and I can embrace life with energy.  By accepting this moment as it ‘is’ I’m no longer separated and a huge space opens to receive what’s new.  I’m pulled to be around those who accept, are in joy and especially those who are enthusiastic about the next arising moment.

Be amazed for the grace we’ve received.  I’ve had several experiences where my life in this body should have ended.  This brush with an end to my time in this body has made me more aware of life.  I think anyone who’s lived sixty years has seen how precious our time is within these bodies, has seen or faced death, and now realizes our work is to ‘wake up’.  Amazing Grace has become a very special song for me as I fill with joy for waking to the gift of this moment.

Sometimes you may not know what your instrument is.  In my early years I thought I knew what would make me happy.  My desire mind created a craving.  I deeply desired to play guitar and to fly jet planes.  I was gifted the trumpet, harmonica, hang gliding, windsurfing, and kiteboarding.  I didn’t know how much I wanted children and grand children until I had them.  They now feed my joy beyond imagination.  My deepening relationship with my wife, mother and grandmother to these children, has found new territory never expected in my early years.  It’s softer and more tolerant, and much more accepting to the ‘new beginning’ within this second half of life.  Whether it’s family, boardsports, or music, this life is richer because of the joy I find in deepening the rhythm and harmony of our song. Again, it takes focus, precision and obedience to a ‘practice’ that cultivates the bigger sense of belonging.  One of my teachers called this Big Hope.  A famous trumpet teacher said, “When the mind leaves the tone, obstacles appear.”  A Zen teacher said, “Life is about removing obstacles and going deeper.”  I now know that intellect knowledge is very shallow.  The real learning comes from dedicated attention that absorbs into the flesh and bones, touching every atom and cell within the body.  The joy found in this learning is beyond the imagination, limitless, and filled with curiosity/mystery.

In the midst of the restless mind, patience is huge.  I’m finally improving my capacity to pause.  ‘Hot’ emotions have generally followed a restless, reactive mind.  Things always go better when I embrace the ‘feeling’, let go the growing of negative as I witness ‘change’, aim to ‘stillness’, and eventually move to action that at the minimum does not harm.  This requires letting go the need to fix, to be right, to defend, and to change a situation or person.  It’s once again refining the capacity to rest in uncertainty, seeing the delusion of resolution.  It requires returning to the matt for deepening into reception of the ‘rising moment’.  Poof!  Here it is.  Yes!  Thank you!  Joy returned.

Dear Universe (God, Source, Love)

Thank you for this restless mind and the struggles I’ve engaged to settle you down.  From that struggle I’ve come to where I am now.  Thank you for showing me the silliness found in attaching to ‘my story’.  I’m so happy to rest in faith, love, and the felt sense of Big Hope.  Touching the infinite, it’s all dance, letting go the critical mind in joy that I’m better than I was.  Thanks for showing me that judgement is my biggest obstacle to love, to the felt sense of belonging.  This has given me the strength to stand in the presence of another’s suffering, the courage to move into unfamiliar territory.  It’s given me the wisdom to find new space when thoughts arise creating negative emotions.  It’s shown me the power in tasting the future ‘now’.  Why wait when heaven is here, in ‘this’ moment.  The ordinary is no more, nothing taken for granted as all becomes perceived as extraordinary.  Thank you for the joy found in cultivating awareness to your Presence within my Being.  I am not my stuff.  I am not my achievements.  I am not separate.  I am the tone.  I am the breath, the dance, the harmony, the rhythm, the Divine.  I can not be separated and consequently relish this moment free from the fear of eventually surrendering this body.  Thank you for what Carols Castanada calls ‘the active side of infinity’.  Thank you for the taste of peace.

No body--- before I had a body and after I let this body go

Some body--- I have this body

Some body else--- I am aware that I’m connected to more than my body

Take nothing for granted.

You’re entitled to nothing.

Don’t complain.

Cultivate your relationship to this moment with obedience to a diligent practice.

Meditate from the heart or belly.

This work, cultivating depth through deeper living, stewardship and good food, helps slow energy dissipation so you can progress along the way in this body---being/doing to your fullest.

Trees want to grow old and strong and then a beetle comes...or drought.  The chances for slowed entropy increase for the tree who’s paid most attention to stewarding those around him, roots reaching out for mutual support.

Mountains exist because their rock was slower to dissipate.  Yet, erosion happens, but it’s slower with the commitment of a mountain.

Nothing dies.  It just changes.  Nothing disappears.  It just changes.  Nothing stops.  It’s forever in motion.  Change varies according to our vibration.  It’s either fast or slow, high or low.

It’s good to cultivate a higher vibration that smashes our restlessness.  It’s good to cultivate space to strengthen our felt sense of Unity.  It’s good to break our addiction to busyness, our ‘too busy to Be’ mind set.

More on your body.

Your somebody is your body.

Give it your dedicated stewardship.

Never criticize it.  It’s doing everything it can to help you catch up to the beauty of response for the gift of your materialization.  

If you have any sense of lack-ness, not enough-ness...Stop it!

This is a ‘dis’ on the grace you’ve been bestowed.  It’s a disgrace.  

Rather, cultivate gratitude from the grace received to manifest in this body.

Our work is to be in joy.  Enjoy is tied to pleasure and the consumptive mind.  We’re forever left in the vacuum of desire.  Joy is sustainable, even as we move through the earthquakes of life.  When ‘in joy’ I make my best effort to love all life, to leave a gentle wake with minimal harm.

Quality living is about cultivating first hand information from the Divine.  You can function with second and third hand information, attached to beliefs and dogmas.  I want to taste the direct experience, outside the thought mind, aiming to reduce my felt moments of separation.

I have found ‘to be/do’ my best requires opening to the nonverbal/nonlinguistic experience...beyond thought.  Best performance of an action commands commitment to steer from thought, any thought.  A thought removes us from the power of flow (from coincidence/co-inciding) which is purely nonverbal surrender into the receiving of ‘this’ arising moment in 100% fullness.  

For sure, this requires thought, practice, rehearsal, vow, obedience, commitment, etc., before we can surrender in flow, grateful for the unity of action outside of time and space, outside judgment from the critical mind and all its birthed obstacles.

Always Question Authority, Always Respect Authority

Always Question Authority, Always Respect Authority

It’s always been a good life skills approach to stay out of the way from those who could hurt you.  I respect fire, yet work to understand how I can come to know it as friend.  In the ’60’s, my rebellious youth was quite good at questioning authority, but not so good at respecting it.  This caused me much unnecessary suffering.  Life experience has repeatedly shown me that ‘the problem is never what I think it is’.  The assumptions we make in the face of apparent injustice frequently end  up causing us to needlessly suffer.  Especially in the face of injustice and false accusation, our skillful means of communication can mean the difference between a minor incident or one that changes the course of our life in unwanted ways.  Our prisons are filled with those who’ve lacked skill in holding their reactions to authority or those who got in their way.  For sure, many are there for offensive reasons, but I suspect many are there for emotional, defensive reactions to others who got in their way.

More and more, we’re discovering the need to put ourselves in another’s shoes before we react.  As former Secretary of Defense, Robert McNamara, points out in the documentary Fog of War, the number one military lesson is to empathize with the perceived enemy.  Put another way, it’s critical to question where their authority is coming from and always respect that authority.  This is a deeper listening that involves compassion to the human experience, a willingness to meet another’s suffering and difference.  Our human failure to do this has resulted in countless unnecessary wars and millions of lost lives.  This capacity to respect our enemy can’t be faked.  Dr. Martin Luther King has written that others can smell our contempt when our listening is done through the closed mind from judgments of righteousness.  The inquiry must me open to the influences of divine Providence in honor and wonder to that which is bigger than our reasoning minds.

I had previously held judgment on highway patrol officers pulling me over for mild infractions.  Then, through a meditation retreat with the Madison police force, I was able to grow my respect for the challenges of their job.  I used to fill with frustration when pulled over.  Now, I fill with compassion for the risks they take each time they pull over an unknown driver.  Rather than focusing on my inconvenience I’m filled with apology for putting them in their situation.  They can smell my respect for their authority and as a consequence, they open more readily to my questioning of their authority.

Respecting the authority of those who our mind would judge to be inferior in development is challenging beyond most of life’s challenges.  Yet, when we separate from them in our judgment of superiority, we inevitably make matters worse.  It seems best to hold silence until we can really, really begin to understand the experience of the ‘supposed other’.

Life is difficult.  Our attachments to our sense of ‘righteousness’ cause great suffering.  Our willingness to open to that which is bigger, beyond our illusion of separation, leads to the skillful means necessary to navigate challenging interpersonal situations.  Today it seems too few recognize the need to respect authority as they become apathetic to questioning authority.  I suggest we revisit respecting our parents, church and state as we more deeply question authority from the open ‘non-righteous’ mind.  These non-emotional explorations will lead us to better living and the capacity to find our ‘common sense’.www.just-be-it.com

Gratitude Practice

Happiness is a necessary consequence to gratitude.  Yet, we seldom, if ever, find gratitude practice in a school curriculum.  Many school administrators claim this area of training is for the church or family.  Yet, it’s perhaps the most important skill, next to listening, for success.  Ancient spiritual wisdom across traditions directs us to find gratitude for what “is”.

We’re frequently told to make space to find the gift in the given.  Michael Beckwith has said we must give thanks for what is so we can make space for new opportunities to come in.  The expression of gratitude through “thank you” is not the etiquette function we’re accustomed to.  It’s not about just expressing gratitude for another’s gift to us.  It’s about the ‘felt’ sense of fullness for the ‘opportunity’.  Brother David Steindl Rast has described it as joy for the ‘opportunity to participate’. To experience our core Being, we have to participate with our whole being.  Paul Tillich attributes this full participation as the key to faith, courage, and knowledge in life.  Essentially, the practice of gratitude is forever carrying joy for the freedom to be engaged in the gift of the moment.  In gratitude, we take nothing for granted.  It’s gratitude that is the source of our courage to face the challenges of the world.
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From his book Gratefulness, Brother David has written:

Even the predictable turns into surprise the moment we stop taking it for granted.  P. 9

Gratefulness is the measure of our aliveness. To live life open for surprise, in spite of all the dying which living implies, makes us ever more alive.  P. 12

We cannot be mindful without being grateful.  As soon as we awake from taking everything for granted, there is at least a glimmer of surprise and a beginning of gratitude. P. 47

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A Lesson in Gratitude, Happiness and Healing (as spoken to an elementary school class)

Who here has ever been hurt? Did you cry? Do remember how you got better? What happened? Did you see how you felt better when you or someone else sent your hurt some love? Did you see how it felt worse when you sent anger to what you hurt?

Let’s pretend we stubbed our little toe on a door. At first we may cry when our toe sends an ouch message to the brain. And if our brain keeps thinking about it, did you know that the ouch just gets bigger? Who of you wants the pain to get stronger? No one? So let’s learn a way that will always get us back to feeling happy. How many of you want to get back to feeling happy after getting hurt? There’s a magic word that will help you. This special word is thank you.

We can look at what’s broken and give it love or anger. If we look at it with love, we’re saying thank you for how it worked before it was broken. If we look at it with anger, we’re mad because it’s not working like we want it to. Some people only look for what’s not working. Do you think they’re happy? Probably not, unless they’re looking at it with love and care, just like a doctor may look at your hurting toe. The best way to start feeling happy is to say “Thank you, toe. Thank you for sending that message to my brain. Thank you for helping me walk today. Toe, I love you and think you’re great for helping me stand and walk.” When you do this, you’ll see that all of a sudden, Toe is feeling better and so are you. If it still hurts, move around your body and say thank you for all that’s still working. Look at your other little toe. Say, “Thank you, toe. I love you and know you help me walk, stand, run and are very dear to me.” Move your thoughts to your little finger. Say, “Thank you little finger. It’s so amazing that you can move up and down when my brain says to. You’re always there when I catch the ball, eat my food and so many other things. Thank you for working so well.” Your body likes to hear you give attention to it. It’s a very good friend and wants to serve you well. It wants you to always see what’s working. Breathe in and say, “Thank you lungs, for taking in air and feeding oxygen to my blood. Thank you heart, for sending fresh blood all around in my body.” When you do this, all of a sudden, you’re not thinking about your stubbed toe. All of a sudden you realize your toe doesn’t hurt as much, and you’re feeling so happy for all that’s still working.

So who wants to be happy as much as you can be? Do you know Abraham Lincoln? He said, “You can be as happy as you make your mind up to be.” Who remembers the magic word for making happiness? Yes, it’s thank you. So if something’s not working, will it get better if you get mad about it or if you send it love? What works better, saying thank you for all that’s working or being mad about everything that’s not working?

Here’s something you can do every morning when you get up from your bed. It will help you feel happy. Just wiggle a little toe and say, “Thank you, toe, for moving when I ask you to.” Open and close your eyes and say, “Thank you eyes, for opening and closing when I want you to.” They like this, and each time you do it, they feel so happy. Some mornings do it with your hands, sometimes with your legs, sometimes thank your nose for still smelling. There are so many parts of your body to say thank you for…so many things that are working so well. And guess what, when you think about them you don’t even think about what may be hurt or the ouch of your little toe. Sometimes you can even wake up and say, “Thank you. It’s such a great not stubbing my toe day.” And you know what? This even makes you feel happy.

So what are the magic words, thank you toe or I hate you toe? That’s right, thank you is magic and it helps you feel better. It also helps other people feel better when you thank them for what’s working. It just works to look for what’s working and say thank you. And if you must look at what’s not working, send it love from your heart. Soon it will feel better knowing that you’re thankful for all it gave you before it broke. So many times, this is enough to get it working again.

Outside the confines of my body…just be it.

Standing Outside Myself I “See” Where I “Must” Go

The famous Sufi, Rumi, wrote about how important it was to follow the heart’s way rather than the way fear would have us go. Interestingly the way of the heart is much more difficult than the way of fear. It commands action in contribution through our unique gifts and talents. It means staying true to that which we know must be done, even when those around us laugh at our efforts. Tremendous freedom is gained when we surrender our pursuit of happiness through seeking others’ approval to seeking our approval of heart’s pull. Standing tall in the “I” that remains after we die, we can see the power in our unique contribution while inhabiting this body and this body finds its ‘original smile’.

So where do we find happiness? How is it so many move through life so unhappy? How can we teach our children the secrets to happiness? Why are we continually caught in the false notion that happiness can come through accumulation and consumption, through dying to our work in retirement, through taking a just do me vacation to Disneyland or Las Vegas? Why do we ignore the simple answers to finding happiness? It’s so simple, yet one of life’s most complex applications.

It seems that when we offer these simple insights to happiness, most meet this ancient wisdom with disappointment. Yet, successful, happy living will always be found through our disciplined sacred intention to contribute in the healing of the universe, through our expression of gratitude for gifts given and through our commitment to standing tall in life affirmation. Simply put, happiness is found through a perceptual focus on “yes” with each inhalation and “thank you” with each exhalation. Within this body, the only thing we really need is breath. As long as we have it, we can find happiness through expression of gratitude for it.

Our willingness to see the abundance and to recognize our opportunity for perceptual shifts to the mystery of life leaves us forever in awe at the miracle. This leads us to never-ending happiness through our continuous flow of gratitude. Today, traveling this life gate transformation, may we scream in joy for the blessings received and the perfect intelligence of the universe.

Our Peace Commands Our Expression of ‘Thank You’ From Our Gratitude

Brother David Steindl-Rast says a working definition of love is “the yes to belonging with the whole of being”. He believes we can’t have gratefulness without acknowledgement of our belonging; to really come alive is an experience of interdependence. This seems to be why happiness has been related to cognitive expression of gratitude within the thank you response. There’s something that enhances our belonging when we move from the feeling of gratitude to the expression of thanks. This enhancement of belonging appears to be a great source of happiness.

Illumination

May all creatures find peace in everything, in complete belonging through expression of our gratitude in the thank you response. As life’s opportunity is forever gifted in the manifest, may our hearts necessarily pull us to thankfulness in what Brother David refers to as “a circle dance of gratefulness”.

Finding the Gift in the Given

Some amazing things happen when we have enough trust to receive all moments as gift. In the face of hopes gone down the drain and expectations not met, can we still face the mystery in wonder and appreciation? When we recognize the all as gift, our only appropriate response to any life event within this moment is that of gratefulness. Brother David says, “The Source continually gives itself into the manifest and then we give this back in thankfulness…it’s a circle dance of gratefulness”.

Within our acknowledgement of gratefulness through “thank you”, we find peace. Forgiveness is our release of disappointment for events and moments that fell short of our fantasy or expectation. As we release attachment to thoughts of what we think should have been, as we return to the moment in strong affirmation, we find our healing. We give thanks for insights gained through life’s greatest pains and suffering. We meet the mystery in the moment filled with gratitude and consequent peace and happiness.

It’s Our Job to Say Yes to Life

We can watch the animals and plants in nature and see how they say, “Yes”, to each moment. As babies, they are carefully trained in what to pay attention to for survival. We often mistake their keen attention for fear, yet we suspect they have no concept of time, necessarily living in the moment. It’s like we’re continually being shown through Spirit what “works” and what “doesn’t work”. So why do we as humans continue to act in ways that don’t work?

It seems as though we’ve almost come to accept a “not okay” universe by surrounding ourselves with those who may be filled with fear, regret and dissatisfaction with the way it is. Yet, we know it works to still see the gift in those events that cause us the most suffering. We know it works to see grace given through the intelligence of the universe. We know it works to be filled with wonder and awe in our belonging, beyond notions of separation, judgment and comparison. We’ve seen this naturally happen in cultures living outside the influence of power struggles and competition and we now see how crucial it is to find our connectedness and gratitude for this gift of life.

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May the hearts of all parents fill with the intention to teach our children. May we teach the strength in affirming this gift of life with each breath in and teach our children to find full gratitude with the miracle of each breath out. May we all meet our heart’s desire by working to find gratitude and peace for the opportunities that arise in easy and difficult times. Within this space, may all creatures find purpose and contribution to the healing of the universe.

Teaching Our Children to Say Yes to the Mystery

At a very early age, we can teach our children the value in an affirming attitude as they return to consciousness from sleep. As the child awakes, while still at an early age and filled with wonder, we can engage them in the joy for the gift of bodily movement, shifting focus to various body parts they find they can control. We can help them shift perception to various capabilities of the senses. In effect, our capacity to teach our children the affirming morning response, filled with gratitude and wonder for their very presence, can play a huge role in their life happiness.

We’re teaching them to give thanks for what’s working within this given precious moment, even when in the face of that which is not working. In effect, we’re working with our children to increase their awareness rather than deaden it. Obviously we can’t pretend that we’re awake in appreciation to the mystery. Teaching our children necessarily commands us to effortlessly be in that space of wonder, presence, affirmation and gratitude. This is the richest form of love we can give anyone, our complete attention and presence filled with gratefulness for their ‘being’ beyond notions of separation from us.

Breathing in Yes to Face the Moment; Breathing Out Thank You for the Gift of Opportunity”.

Breathing in we can wake to life in full affirmation. This is where we face the moment in wonder for the gift of opportunity. Within this gift comes our opportunity to share. Upon touching the heart, we are pulled to share our wealth, not from some sense of duty, need for approval, or guilt. It simply happens from carefully listening to our yes to life. Amazingly we learn to find the gift of opportunity especially in troubled times. We surrender ego’s tendency to think we can fix things. We come into the peace and understanding of receiving the intelligence of the universe just as it is. As we touch our heart, so do we touch those hearts around us. We find our connection at last, when we come to see that it’s not just about us. The fabric of our consciousness is threaded into the finest of cloths as we discover our full smile for the gift of opportunity.

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May we forever be filled from this gift of opportunity. As we polish the heart, we come to know our happiness…that beautiful place where our doing meets our being, that place where fear and pride vanish as we come to touch one another beyond notions of separation.

Weather and Pests

A lot has been written about attitude. We can see how our mental attitude affects our physiology, how it contributes to our healing and ultimately to our sense of health and well-being. Carolyn Myss has written about the negative impact of the language of ‘woundology’, where we get caught in focusing on what’s not working with our bodies. There’s the paradox about social acceptance of discussion of our pains and injuries mixed with our inherent discomfort in listening to another’s feared concerns.

It seems that those things that are uncomfortable for us, those things that test our threshold of whining, are what build character. In Minnesota there seems to be an overwhelming focus on what’s not right about the weather or what’s not right with the insects. Just as it seems people don’t want to hear us complain about what’s not working with the body, it seems best to not whine about the weather and the bugs. Healthy living and relationships seem to best function within the realm of gratitude for the very gift and opportunity to exist. Within this awareness comes our capacity to forever say yes to the moment, to discipline ourselves to say thank you, and to experience consequent happiness.

Teaching Our Children for Peace and Sense of ‘Well Being” in a World Bent on Violence and Anxiety

How is it that we lose that sense of wonder? The infant’s face is filled with awe at the mystery of life and the discovery of the universe. Yet, at some point it’s as if we’re pre-wired to attach to an experience of either pleasure or pain. From the very first development of cognition, as the child comes to the cognitive stage of object permanence, it’s as if we bring our children along the road of dissatisfaction. Parents and educators place great emphasis on training children in the ways of manipulating the environment through requesting skills. Inherent in requesting behavior is the notion that something is not right or missing. Actually, much of our learning is based on notions of getting somewhere that’s better than where we are. Much of our motivation to learn and work is motivated from fear of losing what we have. Yet, the richest contributions to humanity have come through creative efforts where the individual has maintained a sense of wonder in the creative process, forever filled with gratitude for the gift of opportunity to just be.

Who does not want their children to be at peace? Who doesn’t want their children to be filled with happiness and a solid sense of well-being? So why do we work so hard to train them in dissatisfaction? Why do we continually expose them to fear for what’s not working and notions of hope or luck from some outside source that can control their future sense of pleasure or pain? Isn’t our primary goal to contribute to the healing of the universe as we bring our children once again to a sense of wonder in creative response to the gift of opportunity? Isn’t our educational duty to cherish that sense of mystery and wonder throughout the child’s education? In short, wouldn’t the more effective teacher continually challenge students to go deeper in the question rather than memorizing static answers?

It seems our largest imperative in teaching is to forever bring to awareness the beauty of the moment and the divine intelligence of the universe as we come to full acceptance for what is. As we teach our children to touch the divine through the heart, they will find their creative contribution and connection, forever in gratitude for all that is working, even through the most difficult of life circumstance. This is where they find peace and well-being in a world that seems focused on violence and anxiety.

Life’s Greatest Healer…Gratitude

Across cultures, from the most ancient wisdom, comes the knowledge that our greatest healing arrives through gratitude. Within the space of our gratitude for the very gift of this moment, we move outside notions of victim, need and the very separations of life that have caused our pain and suffering. Many cultures have attributed healthy living and success to our capacity for setting sacred intentions, experiencing and expressing gratitude and making life affirmations through the day. To the extent we can move into this space, we discover our healing. At this moment we surrender all notions of victimization, judgment, criticism and fear. Enveloped in love and faith, we come to the deeper understanding of our belonging and response-ability to participate in the evolution of the very healing process.

Gratitude, Key to Happiness within the Art of Presence

There’s something about gratitude that necessarily puts us within the experience of this present moment. One of the key elements to healing for those grieving the loss of a loved one is their ability to give thanks for the time they had with this person. While the recollection of past experience may result in separation from the present moment, at that point in consciousness where we give thanks, there’s simply no way to be out of presence.

When engaged in a sport activity, the action of giving thanks for the moment assists our connection with the elements and the style of action. We may frequently find ourselves caught in comparison, attached to thoughts of previous experiences. Yet, when we do arrive into the gratitude response there’s a connection with the moment’s unfolding, outside of thought, where happiness fills the heart.

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Holy Spirit, this gift of the moment is so precious. May all creatures come to celebrate this gift, moment by moment…breath by breath, facing the wave of all living circumstance.

Paradise…A State of Consciousness

We can travel the world looking for the perfect place, that space beyond fear, anger and sadness. Yet, wherever we land we can find people filled with the complexities of these emotions and thoughts. So where do we find true peace and happiness? It seems the recipe is found in the mix of a consciousness filled with a sense of enough-ness and gratitude. When we can lift our awareness from a sense of lack-ness to one of enough-ness, we move to a higher state of consciousness that expands opportunity. This sense of gratitude in enough-ness motivates us to action in respect to the awe of this gift we call life. There’s nothing stagnant about enough-ness. It’s vibrant, filled with color and has a deep sense of being that moves far beyond our notions of limitation.

So can we help our children find paradise? It certainly doesn’t seem to be a state of mind for which we’re pre-wired. It needs to be taught, carefully bringing the child to awareness of the peace and happiness found in each experience of gratitude. This is particularly difficult in our consumptive society where our children are continually being sold on products that will fill their lack-ness. Bombarded by commercials throughout the day, they’re told that they’ll be happier with a particular product. Worse yet, they’re told they can’t be happy without this product and the process of wanting is fed. Suffering grows and temporary happiness is found when the product is purchased and the wanting stops. Yet seldom does the consumption of the product produce paradise…a true and lasting peace and happiness. Rather, the addiction to wanting grows and we forever try to feed an insatiable appetite when all we need to do is cultivate our consciousness of enough-ness and appreciation.

The Art of Teaching Happiness Through Gratitude and Life Affirmation

As parents and teachers we’ve been entrusted with the sacred task of teaching our children how to be happy. In a world filled with increasing messages of fear and separation, this can be difficult. We want our children to maintain their innocence and sense of wonder, yet we don’t want them to willingly get into a stranger’s car. We want them to appreciate the beauty of nature, in awe at all of life’s daily miracles, yet we don’t want them exploring without our protective eye on them. No doubt, this is a delicate balance, this teaching of wonder and of protective instinct. We’ve witnessed an overload emphasis upon the teaching of fear over the past years. We seem to allow our children to watch excessive violence in the news, TV shows, computer games and movies. We let them listen to violence and anger in their music. We coach them on the importance of staying away from strangers and places where they may encounter strangers. We train the virtue of survival and defense. Yet we seem to have lost a focus on teaching happiness through gratitude.

Have you ever noticed the decreased expression of wonder on the faces of children as they advance their years of education. The preschoolers and kindergarten children generally present faces filled with smiles, happiness and a sense of life appreciation for the unfolding moments of the day. The ones that do not have often been put into a passive life experience by parents using the TV as a main stimulant. Parents can be coached back to linguistic stimulation with their children by teaching them the skills of self talk and parallel talk. In self talk the parent describes their present moment actions in short sentences. In parallel talk the parent describes the child’s actions in short sentences. These skills have been often regarded by language therapists as the two most important skills for stimulation of language development. They have a focus on the present moment. Consequently it is not possible to project into the future about what might happen or to dwell in regret for what happened in the past. The child’s notions of time are still too limited, and this necessarily puts emphasis upon the precious present moment. Magic can happen in these moments when the parent fully surrenders to the wonder of the child’s changing perceptual focus.

Within this moment of magic, can we teach happiness? Can we teach skills that the child can draw on for the rest of his/her life, skills that will bring a return to the happiness response through the most difficult of times? It would seem that we must, and that we’ll profoundly change the universe through some simple changes in our approach to early play with our children.

This is not the etiquette “thank you” expression that relates to another’s approval. This is fully surrendered “thanks in wonder” for the precious gift of life received. The child would seem most ripe to receive this instruction while still in a natural sense of wonder for the world. We could break down various body movements and specifically give thanks for the gift to move…to make action. For example, we could take the child’s hand and ask them to move a finger, express wonder at the magic in this ability, and teach them to give thanks for this blessing. They could be taught to breath in deeply, and then breath out, followed by expression of gratitude for the gift of air. They could then experience the most important teaching; they would notice how happy they feel when giving thanks for these gifts. They would see that gratitude is the key to a lifetime of happiness. They would learn that whenever they’re not happy, all they have to do is look at their little finger and move it, giving thanks for this gift, and they’ll once again find happiness. Or they could return to the breath in gratitude for its moment-to-moment life restoration. They would no longer grow their suffering. Isn’t this what we all want?

Lasting happiness will not be found in a pill and it can’t be genetically programmed. We see that lasting happiness can’t be found through consumption and material accumulation. It’s not found through achievement and accumulation and our continual desperate attempts for control and power. Happiness comes from our expression of gratitude and we must teach this thank you response to our children for their lasting happiness.LET'S GET IN TOUC